Judaism is generally very positive about sex, regarding it as a divine gift and a holy obligation — both for the purposes of procreation and for pleasure and intimacy. The Talmud specifies not merely that a husband is required to be intimate with his wife, but sources also indicate that he is obliged to sexually satisfy her. Instead, sexual activity is highly circumscribed in Jewish tradition, as the rabbis of the Talmud sought to use the human libido as a tool for increasing the population and strengthening marriage. Traditional Jewish law not only prohibits many types of sexual relationships, but it also dictates specific parameters even for permitted ones.
Rated X: A Guide to Rabbinic Writing on Oral Sex for Women
Prev Table of Contents Next. In Jewish law , sex is not considered inherently shameful, sinful, or obscene. Sexual enjoyment whether involving intercourse or mere hand holding is permissible for Jews only within the context of marriage. The primary purpose of sexual relations is to reinforce the loving marital bond between husband and wife. In the Written Torah, one of the words used for sex between husband and wife comes from the root Yod-Dalet-Ayin, meaning to know, which vividly illustrates that proper Jewish sexuality involves both the heart and mind, not merely the body. Nevertheless, Torah does not ignore the physical component of sexuality. Sexual relations should only be experienced in a time of joy.
About a year and a half ago I was at a Chabad rosh chodesh meeting with one other college student and four middle aged women. The rebbetzin wanted to talk about the parsha Bereshit but the middle aged women wanted … Read More. The rebbetzin wanted to talk about the parsha Bereshit but the middle aged women wanted to talk about sex. I wanted to crawl under the table. The child will be mute if the man kisses the vagina. The child will be deaf if they speak during sex, and the child will be blind if the man looks at the vagina. It ends up saying that a man can do whatever makes his wife happy. To support this they bring up a handy little parable: Meat from the slaughterhouse can be eaten salted, roasted, cooked or boiled; so with the fish from the fishmonger.
Oral sex has been an obsession of mine. Now the crazy Kallah teacher told my wife it is a big 'aveyra', and one can go blind. I held back all these years because of 'pas b'saloh'. But it won't last forever, in spite of all my other advances and accomplishments. This remains a hurdle, and, I fear, only solvable by getting it at home. One that I can show black on white to my wife? That will enable me to counter the 'out of touch with reality' kallah teacher.